Seminary Practices 1-3: Prayer, Testimony, Journal

I just went to a seminary training meeting tonight.  It was so good, so full of great insights, that I need a little time to process it I think.  Our teacher talked about the temple quite a bit, and about the goals we have for our students this year.

3 practices he gave us, to get the students to incorporate into their lives:

Practice #1: Ask God for the Answers.  We each have the right and privilege to receive direct communication from the Lord.  He will teach us, if we can learn to receive it from Him.

Practice #2: Get Everybody to Say Something.  Having the kids bear their testimonies will actually help them discover parts of their testimonies that they didn't know they had.

Brigham Young said: "Many may think they haven't any testimony to bear, but get them to stand up and they will find the Lord will give them utterance to many truths they had not thought of before.  More people have obtained a testimony while standing up trying to bear it than down on their knees praying for it."

Practice #3: Record Your Questions, Answers, and Impressions.  This one emphasizes journals, and how if you get a prompting, you may lose it if you don't write it down.  The more you write your  promptings, the more God is willing to give you more, further light.

I'm still trying to figure out the best way to keep a journal.  Typing seems to be easier and more effective for me.  But will I remember what I've written?  It will be in chronological order, but maybe the Post Title should have more to do with what's in the journal entry.

Patience

I decided that a characteristic of Christ that I need to work on is Patience.  Thomas S. Monson gave a great talk in General Conference back in 1995 (hey that’s the year you were born J ) about patience through tribulation, or hard things in your life. It is called “Patience – A Heavenly Virtue.”

In his talk, Monson says:

"Life is full of difficulties, some minor and others of a more serious nature.  There seems to be an unending supply of challenges for one and all.  our problem is that we often expect instantaneous solutions to such challenges, forgetting that frequently the heavenly virtue of patience is required."

I think I need patience with an old house that has a never-ending "maintenance" list, other drivers on the road, and with being so distracted with little things, that I can't complete NEARLY all the things I want to!

Other hard things: learning a new language, learning to live 24/7 with someone else, learning to keep on going even when you might be very tired.

But I can do it!  We all can!  With patience, the blessings will come,  I believe we'll even be blessed in OTHER areas, in addition to the ones we are working on.

Proof of Heaven (Universe Insights)

I just finished reading a wonderful book called Proof of Heaven. It is the story of a neurosurgeon who went into a coma for 7 days.  He had a near-death experience, journeying beyond this world and traveling into the deepest realms of super-physical existence. Before he had this extraordinary experience, he was one of the highly-trained scientists who argued that these kinds of experiences are impossible.  Now he knows they are not only NOT impossible, but that God and the soul are truly real.

There were paragraphs of his story that touched me. They made so much sense, and went along so perfectly with what I believe already.  The fact that it came from a brilliant scientist who months earlier was a complete non-believer... well, that only cemented for me my faith in these principles.  I wanted to share those pieces here in my "To Live Deliberately" blog.

UNIVERSE INSIGHTS. p. 48.  "...there is not one universe but many -- in fact, more than I could conceive -- but that love lay at the center of them all.  Evil was present in all the other universes as well, but only in the tiniest trace amounts.  Evil was necessary because without it free will was impossible, and without free will there could be no growth -- no forward movement, no chance for us to become what God longed for us to be.  Horrible and all-powerful as evil sometimes seemed to be in a world like ours, in the larger picture love was overwhelmingly dominant, and it would ultimately be triumphant."

First, I have always believed that "we are not alone" in space.  I believe there are countless planets with life on them...maybe not identical to us, but similar.  And maybe some are, indeed, just like us.

I also believe God gave us free will and the power to make choices for ourselves, to learn and grow and become better people.  God sees our potential, and what we can be.  He knows us so well, so intimately, because he is actually a part of all of us.  We are literally His spirit children.

The last part of that quote, that love is "dominant, and ...would ultimately be triumphant" is a great comfort to me.  Sometimes in this world it is easy to focus on negative or evil things.  The media shoves bad news in our faces constantly, and we might even think there is more evil than good in this world.  There is NOT!!!  There is so much good, being done all over the world.  The media thinks sensationalism is what people want to hear and see. Only negative drama.  But there is so much good being done every single day by good, solid people.  It far outweighs the bad, in the grand scheme. And we already know who will 'win' between good and evil.  Love will ultimately triumph.

What Would Jesus Do?

Another Sunday has come, and I had the opportunity, once again, to partake of the Sacrament and "renew my covenants."  These would be the covenants I made when I entered the waters of baptism.  What, exactly, did I covenant to do when I was baptized?s

I said that I would mourn with those that mourn.  I would comfort those that stand in need of comfort.  That I would take upon myself the name of Jesus Christ.  That means I am willing to act as Jesus would act.  That since he is not physically here, right now, that I will act as he would act, in any given situation.

Well, how do I know how he would act? One lesson at church today focused on our Savior, Jesus Christ.  There is a saying that has come to be a little cliche, since you can find it on bumper stickers and t-shirts.  "WWJD?" is short for "What Would Jesus Do?"

If we take away the "cliche-ness" of the phrase, we can honestly ask ourselves if we actually know.  What WOULD Jesus do?  To find this out, I must consider the stories of his life and ministry, recorded in the Holy Scriptures.  Mostly in the New Testament.

Jesus acted in love. Always in love. He used caring, understanding words and actions, and showed people respect no matter who they were or what they had done.  He did not condone sins, but he loved the individuals and showed them there was always hope.  Hope for repentance, hope for forgiveness, hope for a brighter tomorrow.  When others were downtrodden and felt like their world was crumbling, Jesus offered a listening ear, and sorrowed with people. He gave all glory to our Heavenly Father and worked to bring people closer to him.

So when I take my own day, in January of 2014, and go about the daily tasks that need to happen, I should ask myself, "What Would Jesus Do?"  When Jesus was late for an appointment, and someone like my daughter asked him a question, he most likely would not snap at her and say "I don't have time for this."  He probably would look at her directly, and listen.  I suppose if he really needed to go, He would excuse himself with a loving promise to get back to her with an answer at a specific time in the near future.

Jesus did not drive in the first century A.D.  But if He were driving a car in January of 2014, and another driver pulled in front of him and made him slam on the brakes to avoid an accident, I think He would not lay on the horn for a full 15 seconds.  Maybe he would tap the horn, and pray that the other driver would stay alert and be aware of other cars he might encounter.

If I am consciously looking to act as I believe Jesus might act in this January of 2014, maybe I can also be aware of promptings that come to me from the Holy Ghost. I think that Jesus would act quickly when prompted to do something for somebody else.

What would Jesus do?  In a broad sense, I think I know.  But the more I study his life and ministry, the more I can steer my own actions to be like His.

New Year, Finding Direction

I have not posted on this blog for quite some time.  I was trying to figure out the purpose, or put some meaning behind it.  The very title of the blog, "To Live Deliberately," implies thought and careful consideration.  Not haphazard flailing. Not frivolity.  Thought. Deliberation. Meaning. Purpose.

I would like to join another blogger on her journey this year.  I follow the blog Daily Closer to Christ, and Emily is exploring this year how to listen to and follow the promptings of the Holy Ghost.  How to hear those things the Lord would have you hear. How to act when you feel inspired to do something. How to be of service to someone else when maybe you alone can help them in a specific way.

So this week's lesson talks about getting out of your comfort zone. If we are never uncomfortable, then we have no need of the Comforter.  So doing something for someone else, that is perhaps outside of your comfort zone, can be a good thing.

I have been tutoring for 5 years at the same schools. I like the children, and many of the teachers. But I have been wondering if I should try to change jobs, just to shake things up some.  I'll admit sometimes I let myself get a little bored. What I keep coming back to is, I have the perfect job. Part-time, close to home, it's just right for my current life stage. So maybe the "shaking things up" part can be me, opening up and looking around at the good people around me. How can my interaction with them make their lives better? How can I be a good influence and share a little more of myself with them? Then I can be more available to reach out when there is a need.

This week's lesson/reminder in Daily Closer to Christ is about listening to the Holy Spirit when he speaks to you. "Never Postpone a Prompting." You can be of service to someone. Now.

Since my neighbor's Christmas party (a month ago), I have been thinking of a story I wanted to send along to a few of the friends there. Nothing even spiritual or earth-shattering. Just light. But I've put it off. Today, I sent the story. I got a response from one neighbor who said "this reminded me that your daughter came up in a conversation with so-and-so..." and she asked if my daughter would be interested in babysitting for this other lady.

This was not life-changing or profound. But it does remind me that sometimes we may be inspired to do something and that something will make a connection for someone in a way we would never have thought of. It may seem completely unrelated. But the connection can be made.

The Lord knows the Big Picture. We can never see it: we have blinders on, just naturally. So we must rely on Him to lead us to the people we need to influence or interact with. Or maybe he leads other people to us.

From Glasses to Contacts

My name is Kari, and I have an astigmatism.  This is not my fault, actually.  I was born with the eyes I have.  The following is my journey from glasses to contacts.

ASTIGMATISM.  According to the online medical definition of this word, provided by "The Free Dictionary" by Farlex,  "Astigmatism is the result of an inability of the cornea to focus an image onto the retina.  The result is a blurred image."

VISION BACK IN THE DAY.  I grew up with this.  My vision was not "bad enough" for my teenage self to complain to my mom to take me to the eye doctor.  I actually remember disliking my mother's glasses, and I did not want to be told that I needed glasses.  So I did not complain about it.  I could see fine.

I could also see "fine enough" to pass the driver's license vision test.  The state determined, when I was sixteen, that I could see well enough to join the other thousands of drivers in the metro Denver area.

But as medical conditions sometimes worsen over time, my vision did get gradually worse.

GLASSES.  I went to the eye doctor in my 30's, and he gave me a prescription for eyeglasses.  Astigmatism is most noticable in poor lighting, and at the computer.  He asked, "When you look at the moon at night, do you see two?  And I had to admit that I did...not two separate, far-apart moons.  Just the outline of the "double."

So I got the glasses to drive at night, and watch movies.  They also helped when I was working at the computer: images and letters were crisper, clearer.

Then I started noticing things to be a bit blurry inside, when lighting was not great.  Wearing my glasses made things crisper and clearer ALL the time, not only at night.  So I wore my glasses more.  Not all the time, just more.

THE SUGGESTION.  Then my husband, who has terrible vision and has worn contacts since he was a teen, suggested that I get fitted for contacts.  The thought of putting my finger in my eye not only once a day, but multiple times a day, made my stomach turn.  It's not natural.  You're kidding, right?

"I'm not kidding," he assured me.  "You wouldn't have to think about where you put your glasses, or which case or car they were in.  Which jacket did you wear the last time you had them with you?  You don't want to wear them ALL the time, but you wear them just enough to lose track of exactly where you had them on last."

So the thought still made me cringe.  Why would I intentionally poke myself in the eye every day?  "No, thank you."  He didn't say anything else about it.

So I watched him, cleaning his contacts every night, and putting them in each morning.  Buying supplies to keep them clean, and packing those supplies when he traveled.

A few months later, when he was no longer asking me about it, I decided to try.  I made the appointment to get fitted for contacts.

SQUINTING.  This doctor explained how my vision worked, and how I had learned to compensate for the astigmatism over time, by squinting.  I didn't even know I was doing it.  But I squint most of the time.  30 years of trying to eliminate that second outline, that "double-image" vision, and I squinted now out of habit.

WEIGHTED CONTACTS.  Up until a few years ago, soft contacts were not available to those with an astigmatism.  Your eye is shaped differently an the contact must sit a specific direction on the eyeball.  Now, however, they have Toric Cotact Lenses, or "weighted contacts," where gravity keeps the contact in the correct positon.  Troy Bedinghaus, O.D. explains how the toric lenses work.

FINGER IN YOUR EYE.  After my doctor figured out my prescription, he got a sample pair for me and put them in for me.  For someone who doesn't like the idea of putting her OWN fingers in her eyes, to have someone ELSE put their finger in my eye was torturous!  Blinking, squinting, holding my own eyelids open with my fingers, and looking to the far upper corner of the room...whew!  He finally got them in.

Then I had to be able to do it mySELF, before I could leave the office.  He had me sit in a quiet room with a table mirror.  The assistant explained how it was done and her encouragement was simply, "you get used to it over time."  Which doesn't help a whole lot the FIRST few weeks and months, right?  I fiddled with them for about 12 minutes each.  I finally got them in.

SOMETIMES YOUTUBE LIES.  I watched a Youtube video of someone putting in her own contacts.  No problem, she did it in about 3 seconds.  I was taking an average of 10 minutes per contact!  Clearly this woman was manipulating the digital video clip.

I practiced for a week, then went back in to the doctor.  The idea is to report difficulties, and then order a year supply if you want to go with the ones you've had for the week.

MONTHS LATER.  Six months later, I am happy to report that I like the contacts, a lot.  There are still times it is more difficult to get them in (usually when I am in more of a hurry than usual), but overall I can do it in just a couple of minutes instead of my original twenty.

If you are considering trying contacts as an alternative to glasses, I would say, "Go for it!"  You have enough to worry about and things to keep track of.  Why add glasses to the list of items you carry around?

Choosing a Cruise: 10 Things to Consider

The cruising industry has taken a beating since the Costa Concordia accident in January. Carnival cruises reported a dip in reservations made, as unsettling photos of the mammoth vessel -- capsized -- splattered websites all over the Internet and the newspapers.

The fact remains, however, that cruising is a very safe, exciting, all-inclusive vacation for friends and family of all ages. Anne Campbell reiterates the safety of massive cruise ships. "It is harder to crash a cruise ship than it is a car or airplane."

Our family took a Carnival Cruise, December of 2011, during the week following Christmas. We had a fabulous time! We have one pre-teen and two teenagers, and we traveled for 7 days to Mexico, Honduras, and Belize.

Cruises have a wide variety of offerings, to meet the needs of a wide range of family members: ages newborn to 110. It of course depends on what you are looking for in a vacation. But often the activities and benefits stand up well in comparisons with any other type of vacation. Here are a few important points to consider in choosing and organizing your cruise:

1. TYPE OF VACATION. Is it a family reunion? Would you like to lay on the beach and relax? Or do you prefer to go-go-go every minute? Cruises can be wonderful for any of the previously mentioned types of vacations.

Cruises provide a good location for family reunions, mostly because of their all-inclusiveness. A big highlight for me was: Lots of Really Good Food. This may be a highlight mostly for moms. I didn't have to cook for 7 days! All meals are included in the price of the cruise, and there is food available any time of day.

Depending on your timing needs, you can eat at one of the multiple buffets, the formal sit-down-and-take-your-order restaurant, or the sushi bar. Of course, don't forget the 24-hour ice cream and pizza. Kids are all about ice cream and pizza.

2. KID-FRIENDLY ACTIVITIES. Many cruise ships have Age-Appropriate Activities. Carnival cruises have daytime and nighttime activities for kids of all ages! Younger kids could do crafts and play games with others in their age bracket.

Our kids went to the teen scavenger hunts(300) and mini-golf, and there was always the pool tables and air hockey to pass time in between activities. There is a break available for parents with small children, if they want to leave their children with the camp specialists as they disembark for the day, or participate in some other form of ship entertainment after dinner. Ship staff avail themselves for private babysitting, too.

I saw lots of little kids on our Carnival Cruise, and I hear that Disney is also, as you can imagine, geared totally towards children. You have a mix of available activities during most of the daytime, and into the evening hours for the older ones, too.

Onboard Entertainment. Each night there is entertainment onboard in different locations on the ship. Ours included song-and-dance shows, comedians, gymnasts and jugglers. There was a magician one night, who also performed for the kids at various times throughout the week.

3. LENGTH OF CRUISE. This is often dictated by the school calendar. (When the kids were all still in elementary school and even Middle School, we didn't worry quite so much about the calendar. As soon as High School rolled around, however, the message the school administration sent was ominous: miss a day of school and you'll be scarred for life, not to mention never get into a decent college or get a job or be able to support yourself for the rest of your life. Wow--was one or two extra vacation days really worth THAT? Probably not.)

Cruises can be as short as 2 nights, and as long as 21 days. Much of the traveling actually occurs at night, when it's dark and while you are sleeping. But there are "days at sea" where you stay on the ship the whole day.

4. DAYS "AT SEA."  This may seem like a silly consideration, but it kind of goes back to the previous question, what type of vacation are you aiming for. For us, it was all about the places we were visiting. We wanted to explore and experience the nature, wildlife, outdoor activities and shopping the ports of call had to offer. The ship was very nice, but it was not the reason we went. If that is your thinking, you would probably try to get a cruise that has fewer "Days at Sea." Maybe two days at sea, max.

Often the ship will sail all day the first day and night, so you have the first day "At Sea." That is fine because everybody is fresh and excited to start their vacation. After that first long stretch, the ship anchors during the day and sails all night to get to the next stop, so when you wake up you can disembark. There are some cruises, however, that have 3 and even 4 days "At Sea." Recognizing that the ship itself can be entertaining, this may or may not be good for the kind of vacation you want.

5. EMBARKATION PORTS. You might be within driving distance of a major port, like Port Canavaral in Florida, or Houston, Texas. Ships also leave from Los Angeles, CA and San Diego. VacationsToGo gives a list of ports in the United states at http://www.vacationstogo.com/cruise_port/United_States_(Continental).cfm Princess Cruises gives a comprehensive list of Ports of Europe at http://www.princess.com/learn/ports/europe/index.html

Your travel to the embarkation ports may include flying or taking a train, to even get to the starting point. This could eat up your vacation budget before you even start! Just another point to consider.

6. WHERE TO GO? Most cruise lines offer a broad range of destinations. It depends on the previous question, "What type of vacation are you trying to have? We live in the Boston area, and my main goal last Christmas was to be warm. I was not interested in Alaska or even Europe in December, so I focused my research on cruise destinations in the Caribbean.

At some point we would love to see Alaska. As thin-blooded as I am, that trip will not take place any month besides July or August. It will involve a whole different set of research criteria, as we someday make plans to travel north. This trip, however, was all about being warm.

7. FLEXIBLE DATES...OR NOT.  Like with the answer to #4, if you are traveling with school-aged children, most likely you have a limited window of time in which to plan your vacation. (Elementary-aged children may have less make-up work to do than high schoolers, or less pressure from teachers to NOT miss school.)

Summers, spring breaks, and the last half of December are very popular times for cruise lines. They will be more likely to sell out all the cabins, and probably advertise fewer discounts. You can still find discounts. They just don't really need to "bribe" people to come stay with them during school breaks. If you are in a life stage where you will not be traveling with children, perhaps you want to choose a time during the off season. The weather may not be ideal, but the crowds would probably be smaller.

8. ROOM LOCATION.  The square footage in the room may be similar (usually small...people only sleep in their rooms, so most of them utilize every square inch and don't give you extra lounging room), but the view can make all the difference.

If you are claustrophobic, you will probably need some kind of natural lighting. This will increase the price of the room some. A porthole at sea level gives natural light, although not much and the view is limited to a fish-eye perspective of the ocean surface. The higher up you go on the ship, the MORE water you can see, as you travel. And when the ship is docked, you can see a little more of the port city you are visiting. The cost increases the higher you go on the ship, and inside rooms are generally less expensive.


9.  EXCURSIONS.  Referring back to question #1, you can consider what type of vacation you want. Maybe your read-on-the-sand vacation will only require you to find a suitable beach and a taxi to it. You might ask the ship's entertainment crew where they would go to enjoy a beach. Kitchen and cleaning staff work all day while vacationers are exploring the port, but the dancers, comedians and evening show people have the days to themselves. They generally don't hang out on the same crowded beaches as the rest of the cruise travelers.

If your interests are varied and more adventurous, you should research ahead of time. If the days get away from you and you wait until you board the ship to think about excursions, you'll be locked in to their choices for excursions. This is fine, overall. They may sell out, though, so you have to make some quick decisions once you're on board, if you're considering the more popular excursions.

We planned our excursions long before we actually went on the cruise, but you don't have to plan that far ahead. The ship offers many of the same excursions we found online. For us, half the fun was planning our outings. We would take an interest poll at dinnertime: "Who wants to go snorkeling? ATVing? Number your top choices 1 to 3, and we'll try to plan at least one #1 activity for each person in the family."

We did book a snorkel trip for the day we spent in Belize. We took a shuttle to a small airport and boarded a little plane to a tiny island. Once there, we sped in a motorboat to "Shark & Ray Alley." This is where fishermen used to bring their fish, clean them, and dump the leftovers into the water. The sharks and rays got used to being fed regularly, and the population of those sea creatures grew.  Swimming with these animals was a definite highlight for our kids.

We probably saved some money by booking directly with the organizations, but not really that much.

10.  AVAILABLE DISCOUNTS.  If you are a AAA member, you may get some discounts here and there. Your bank may offer some travel discounts if you use their credit card to pay for the vacation. You can get on the email list of VacationsToGo.com, who send out cruise discounts periodically. Some cruise lines also offer discounts to those who have cruised with them before.

Our cruise was one of our family's favorite vacations together. The kids were great ages for it: they were allowed the freedom they craved as teens, on an enclosed vessel where they couldn't go too far. Meals were varied and top-notch, and the selection was fabulous for every meal.

Babies and toddlers of course won't appreciate all the amenities, but cruises are still a nice family reunion idea since the moms don't have to cook or clean up after everybody.